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Byron Katie; "The Work"

Byron Kathleen Mitchell gave birth to her Spiritual Leadership persona, Byron Katie, in 1986 when she developed the four key questions she titled “The Work”. As Sunday was Mother’s Day, what a better way to celebrate than introducing such a peaceful and empowering woman during An Hour with Spirit.

Who is Byron Katie and what is "The Work"?

In the short biography from Byron Katie and "The Work" are described as:

"Byron Katie has one job: to show people how to stop suffering. When Katie appears, lives change.

"In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression, rage, and self-loathing, Katie woke up one morning to a state of constant joy that has never left her. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn't suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of inquiry is called The Work.

"The Work consists of four questions and the turnarounds, which are a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe. When you question a thought, you see around it to the choices beyond suffering.

"Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than twenty-five years. Her public events, weekend workshops, five-day intensives, nine-day School for The Work, and 28-day residential Turnaround House have brought freedom to people all over the world.

"Byron Katie's six books include the bestselling Loving What Is, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, and A Thousand Names for Joy. For more information, visit"

But what is it REALLY?

It is difficult to explain the process of "The Work" in words, as experiential processes that cause evolutionary change in someone is beyond third person description. What is particularly wonderful about "The Work" is that Byron Katie makes it accessible to all of us, all of the time. It's free. Well, you can buy her books, purchase downloads, attend a workshop or enroll in The School. However, all of the materials you need are published and available for free at

The foundation for "The Work" lies in the participant's investigation of how that participant is suffering because of someone else by fully describing the suffering and the relationship then asking these four questions:

1.Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to 3.)
2.Can you absolutely know that it's true? (Yes or No.)
3.How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
4.Who would you be without the thought?

How does "The Work" work?

While there is a considerable amount of information available, those seeking to use the methods of "The Work" risk becoming overwhelmed, or more importantly, superficial with themselves. We don't want to be superficial when we are looking for radical change that will lead us to peace. Therefore, journal intensely, enlist a buddy, hire a facilitator, start a group -- and find a way to get real and get honest. To get the idea, watch Byron Katie demonstrate "The Work" on scores of YouTube videos, download the Apps available, read, and practice "The Work".

Experience the process

For those who were not able to make it on Sunday morning, here is the video that was part of the discussion. The young woman is so charming and sweet one can't imagine her having such feelings about her mother. But she did and was brave enough to process it with Byron Katie. Enjoy, then explore for yourself.


My Mother is Selfish and Controlling—The Work of Byron Katie




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